Abraham – Non-Physical Source Energy as translated by Esther Hicks – responds to a question about relationships when you fall in love.
When you fall in love video transcript:
Your thought is what creates, your thought or focus is what activates the vibration that the law of attraction responds to. Your emotions do not create, your emotions are your indicator of what you are creating. And so as you decide that your emotions are your best friend, and you begin to say today: “No matter where I’m going, no matter what I’m doing, no matter who I’m doing it with. It is my dominant intent to look for things that feel good when I see them.” You did not say as you came forth into your physical experience: “I’ll go forth, and I’ll find the problems, and I’ll push them away.” Because from that vantage point, you understood that this is a universe that is based upon attraction. It’s based upon inclusion. There’s no such thing as “NO” in an inclusion-based universe.
When you see something you want, and you say yes to it, you include it in your vibration. It’s like saying: “Come to me this thing I want.” But when you see something you don’t want, and you shout NO at it, it’s like saying: “Come to me this thing I do not want.” You have a war against drugs, and a war against AIDS, and the war against cancer, and a war against poverty, and a war against terrorism. And all of them are getting bigger. Because when you try to push away something, it doesn’t go away.
All that happens is you activate it in your vibration. And then you use it as your excuse to not go with who you are, so when you see something unwanted, like cancer or terrorism, it causes you to ask for something better. It causes you to ask for a more peaceful world or a world where more are honored and appreciated. Or a world where more ideas are allowed. A world, the world that you intended, where diversity is your strength, not your weakness. And so as you ask for that and then you continue to push against the opposite of it, you don’t let yourself have that. You see. We are eager to talk with you about anything that is important to you. There is nothing that is off-limits. It will be a wonderful unfolding. What do you want to talk about?
It’s going to be a very good day. Began right here. “Shalom Abraham. First of all, I would like to appreciate my deepest appreciation for Jerry and you for having the courage the sensitivity, and openness and for the desiring and allowing of Abraham process. I see both of you as one of the greatest features of well-being for humankind. So thank you first for this.”
We are appreciating your appreciation. And we are all in this together. And you are the evoker of the expansion of this message. Do you get that? You know if it were not for the life that you are living, and the questions that you are asking, that this expansion and clarity could not be? It is you who deserves the appreciation. Thank you.
What I wanted to ask is in regarding relationships. And Jerry talks about one of the CD’s regarding ‘like attracts like’ and something that we know that causes that opposites attract and you’ve mentioned that this is the subject that concerned harmony and not intentions. And I wanted a little, maybe if you can expand some words about this what is the difference between the two.
Well, if we were entering into a relationship with another, our marriage vows would say: “I like you pretty good let’s see how it goes.”
You see, this subject of relationships really speaks to what we were talking about already here in that so often you, when you come together with another, usually in the beginning, you are each hoping for and looking for the best in one another and that’s a very good basis to begin. Because, when you are looking for it you are finding it and so what you are actually doing is using the positive aspects of each other. To be your excuse to tune yourself into who you really are. In other words, when you see something in another that makes you feel good. You have fixated on something that has caused you to become a vibrational match to the greater part of you. That’s what in love is. It’s being a vibrational match to who you are. But so often people want to find approval or appreciation from each other. And in looking for it from each other, they forget about the vibrational alignment between who they are and who they really are.
So we want to say to you that if you will let the relationship that matters most far more than all of the relationships put together, be the relationship between you and you. A really good thing to ask yourself on a really regular basis as you are involved in your interpersonal relationships. Let’s say you are looking at someone, and you don’t like what you see. And you feel negative emotion because you fixated on something that the source was in you would never fixate on. A source within you is a lover. And when you see something that you are not loving, you are using that as your excuse to separate yourself from who you really are. And you are blaming that person. “If you didn’t have that, I’d feel better.” And we say – that’s probably true.
If you were observing something that made you feel good, then it would be easy for you to be a vibrational match. But don’t ask others to stand on their head so that you can tune into who you are. Tune into who you are. Let your feelings be unhearable. Be a vibrational match to who you are, and then be the lover that you truly are, you see. So, there are two things that we would say on a regular basis in our quest for relationships of all kinds. The first is we would begin practicing when we feel positive emotion we would say: “What is it that I’m focused upon within you that I’m using as my excuse to tune into who I really am.” Such a good statement.
If we’re feeling negative emotion, we would say: “What is it that I’m focused upon in you that I’m using as my excuse to not be who I really am.” Feel the power in that. If you say: “Your behavior makes me feel bad.” You’re totally disempowered. But if you say: “What is it that I’m seeing in you? I could see other things because you are a multi-dimensional being with many aspects. But what is it that I’m seeing in you that has me separated? Because I’m not seeing you as a source within me is seeing.” The other statement is just that.
Anytime you feel negative emotion, stop and say: “I wonder how the source within me sees you.” And if you’re feeling negative emotion, you can know the source within you is seeing it differently because negative emotion is your indicator that you’re looking at something differently from who you really are. And it always means you’ve stepped back from who you are. It always means you’re not up to speed with who you are; it always means you’re not seeing this world in this moment through the eyes of source. You’re instead, seeing it through some disconnected dependent vantage point where I need you to be different so that I can feel better.
You are very hard on each other. You are very hard on each other as you need others to behave in certain ways. But when you let the relationship of all relationships be, your relationship with your inner being, with the source within you, you tend to that first by practicing it all the time. Before you know it, you’ll be so tuned in tapped in turned on that you will see only positive aspects in others.
We’re visiting with a woman one day. She was discussing her ex-husband who she had nothing good to say about. And we were encouraging her to have something good to say about him. In fact, we were encouraging that she began making a list of positive aspects about him. And she said: “Oh, Abraham, I don’t want to get back together with him. I don’t even want to have lunch with him.” And we said: “We’re not trying to get you back together with him. We’re trying to get you back together with you.” In other words, you can’t condemn another without separating yourself. And that’s why you feel such strong emotions about so many people. You don’t feel good, and you think it’s because of something that they are doing, you see.
So, there are so many wonderful relationships to be experienced. And when you get tuned in to who you are first, and then you begin to move through your day looking for the best in others. Before you know it, you’ll be so tuned to the best in others and in the world. That it will be a really rare experience when someone bumps up against you who’s not a vibrational match to that will be. Isn’t it interesting to know that you have control over the behavior of all others? Now hear this. You have control over the behavior of all others as it relates to you. Because you are evoking from everyone where your vibration is about them.
So if you train your vibration into the best of them, then they must give it to you. That’s what positive expectation is. That’s what true upliftment is. Getting tuned in to who they really are, you see. And if they’re really vibrating in a different place than you are, the law of attraction will not bring you to the same place. Even if you live in the same house. You will zig and zag, you will wake up at different times. You’ll sort of have different thoughts, you’ll go one way the other will go another way. In other words, no problem at all.
The universe only brings you aspects of others that are active within you. So everything you’re getting, from everyone that you’re getting from, you’re getting it as an indication of your vibration. Jerry and Esther’s friends, Mike, on the camera, made a button and gave it to them. And the button says: “Hi, I’m your vibrational indicator.” So, if someone’s rude to you, thereby, your vibrational indicator. Someone charming, there your vibrational indicator. You only get back what you are giving out, you see. So, it’s really worthwhile training yourself into alignment with who you really are. Good to know. Yes?! Indeed. Thank you.
Esther & Jerry Hicks are the authors of numerous books based on the Teachings of Abraham and their latest book, “Money and The Law of Attraction,” reached #1 on the New York Times bestseller list.
For over 20 years, Esther has translated blocks of thought from “Non-Physical Source Energy.” Which she also identifies as her “Inner Being” or “Soul” – and who refers to themselves in the plural as “Abraham” (no relation to the Biblical figure).
Esther doesn’t use the word “channeling” to describe her process but understands if others do.